Helping You Feel Safe in Love and Connection
Attachment-based therapy for motivated individuals & couples ready to do the deep work
You can have a successful life on paper and still feel painfully alone. You might show up for others constantly, yet struggle to trust that you’re truly lovable. Or find yourself longing for closeness while repeating the same painful patterns—again and again.
You may sense that something in your relationships feels off, but you’re not sure why. And part of you wonders if it will ever change.
The truth is: our earliest connections shape how we see ourselves, how we love, and how safe we feel in the world. When those roots are tangled with abuse, neglect, criticism, or inconsistency, we carry those imprints forward—often without realizing it.
That’s where I come in
Hi, I’m Amber Behrouzvaziri (pronounced
bay-rooz-vah-zeer-ee), but you can call me Amber.
I’m a licensed mental health counselor (LMHC) committed to helping individuals and couples heal the childhood and relational wounds that keep them stuck—not just to feel better, but to live more deeply. To build the kind of love and safety that makes this short, fragile life feel more meaningful.
As someone who has experienced both childhood and relationship trauma, I understand deeply how insecure attachment can shape the way we relate to ourselves and others.
I also know firsthand how challenging—and courageous—it is to do the work of creating more secure, connected relationships.
I’m here to support you every step of the way: from recognizing the patterns that keep you feeling stuck or unfulfilled, to learning how to truly to take in love when you’re with someone who consistently shows up with care and compassion.
I know secure attachment is possible—because I’ve Iived it.
Love, safety, and meaning aren’t luxuries. They’re fundamental human needs. And you deserve them—even if part of you isn’t sure of that yet.
It’s Possible to Feel More Connected, Alive, and At Home—In Yourself and with Others
What to Expect When We Work Together
❤️🩹 A space for real healing
I create a steady, nonjudgmental space where you can explore both the pain of the past and the hope for something more. I walk alongside you at the pace that feels comfortable for you. My goal is to help you feel seen, safe, and truly understood.
💡 Depth meets direction
Our work is grounded in attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and existential principles. You’ll get insight into your patterns and practical tools for change—so therapy doesn’t just feel meaningful, it leads to meaningfully different outcomes.
🌱 Lasting transformation, not surface-level fixes
We won’t just talk about what’s not working—we’ll explore what it’s like to be fully alive in relationships, to reclaim your voice, and to move toward a life that feels emotionally safe, connected, and real.
💭 Metaphors, meaning & a little humor
I love using simple, relatable language (and the occasional analogy) to help complex ideas click—because therapy should feel human, not clinical.
🌻 Support in stepping into your fullest self
My passion lies in helping you reconnect with the truest version of yourself—whatever that looks like for you—and building a life that feels emotionally rich and meaningful.
Why I Offer Premium, High-Touch Care
You’re driven, accomplished, and value exceptional service. You want insights backed by expertise, a process tailored to your goals, and a therapist who truly understands the stakes of personal and relational growth.
You’re not here to skim the surface. You want therapy that’s not only compassionate and insightful, but precise, respectful of your time, and transformative. I limit my caseload so that each client or couple receives:
A fully present, engaged therapist who remembers the details and sees the whole picture
Priority scheduling, thoughtful follow-up, and targeted resources and interventions
A consistent space where you're not just “coping”—you're building something meaningful
My premium rates reflect the depth, skill, and presence I bring to each session—and the level of transformation my clients are here to create.
I might be a good fit for you if…
You want to explore your inner world with curiosity and compassion.
You’re looking for a therapist who offers both emotional attunement and practical feedback.
You’re willing to go beneath the surface to understand patterns in relationships, intimacy, or identity.
You and your partner are both willing to approach conflict with curiosity, not contempt. (Even if things feel messy right now, mutual respect and a desire to grow go a long way.)
You're ready to explore your own patterns and how they show up in the relationship—not just hoping for your partner to change.
You and your partner are both on board with couples therapy and want to be active participants in creating a healthier, more connected relationship.
You’re looking for a therapist who approaches vulnerable topics—like body image and physical intimacy—with sensitivity, warmth, and deep respect.
I might not be a good fit for you if…
You’re uncomfortable with self-reflection or resistant to discussing emotions.
You prefer a highly directive or confrontational style of therapy.
You’re seeking quick advice, solutions, or surface-level strategies without exploring deeper emotional work.
You and your partner are in a cycle of frequent conflict that involves disrespect, hostility, or emotional harm. (In these cases, I’ll refer you to a specialist who works specifically with high-conflict couples.)
You're hoping I’ll "fix" your partner, rather than explore the dynamics between you both.
You’re pursuing couples therapy, but your partner isn’t on board. (That said, I’d be happy to work with you individually to process your experience.)
You have a problem with cheesy, dad jokes.
Education and training
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Indiana Licensed Mental Health Counselor, License #39003409A, Verify
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Education Specialist in Mental Health Counseling, Indiana University
Master of Science in Counseling and Counselor Education, Indiana University
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Externship, ICEEFT
Sex and the Bonds of Attachment: An EFT Approach
IFS-Informed EMDR, Syzygy Institute
Intro to Internal Family Systems (IFS) for EMDR Therapists, Syzygy Institute
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Basic
Using the Science of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals: Bringing Your Clients to Life and Restoring Their Ability to Live Well
Dr. Sue Johnson's Intensive Course in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Attachment-Based Interventions for Couples in Crisis
Sex Therapy 101: An Introductory Guide for Couples Therapists
Life Purpose Coach Certification
Professional Life Coach Certification
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Why Self-Love?
I chose this name because it speaks to both the work I do with clients and the work I’ve done in my own life.
Learning to be kind to ourselves, especially after painful experiences, can be difficult and feel unfamiliar.
For many of us, believing we are truly worthy doesn’t come easily. And healing isn’t something we’re meant to do alone.
Healing happens in connection.
Sometimes that’s the relationship you begin to build with the parts of yourself that have carried pain or protected you for a long time.
Sometimes it’s the safety and trust we create together in therapy.
And sometimes, it’s through forming or strengthening connections with others who are safe and responsive to your needs.
Self-Love Counseling is a caring gesture. It’s meant to remind you that you matter. That you are worthy of love and care, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. It means a great deal to me to be able to support you in connecting with these truths.
